Pam’s New Year’s Eve Thoughts


In the spirit of New Year’s Eve, and all it means to look back and look forward at the same time, here’s my last post of 2011.

I’ve done a lot of growing this year both spiritually and in terms of my own personal development and I want to share a couple of tips with you on how I did it. I hope it helps you!

1. It’s not all about you. Take your own self out of the equation and suddenly the solution presents itself.

2. Being bored isn’t the end of the world. The gaps boredom creates allow new things to come in.

3. Say “yes” even when you can’t see the “how”. Challenging yourself by saying yes in certain circumstances can lead you on paths that you never knew were there, and the “how” will happen naturally.

4. Everything happens for a reason and you are not necessarily entitled to know the reason at the time it happens. Get over it, and get on with it (see number 1 above).

5. Appreciate the gifts you DO have; don’t spend your time ruing the gifts you DON’T have.

6. You have all the tools and skills necessary to make your life a success already. You might not see it, but they are there underneath and ready for you to pick up when you can; just relax.

7. Don’t hanker after the things you haven’t got a hope of getting – and that includes friends, partners, jobs, answers…

8. Giving up on something isn’t the same as failing at it. Sometimes accepting you are on the wrong track and going back is better than keeping going and getting further bogged down with something.

9. Related to the point above, failure is not a bad thing. Failure is the opportunity to learn something new and develop a new approach to a problem.

10. You don’t have to spend money to make other people happy. Just being you and doing what you do is enough so long as you do it with love and light in your heart.

11. Take time out for prayer and meditation.

12. Give thanks to God for everything.

I’ve learned all this through the year one way or another and I can honestly say that my life has been transformed this year. At this point last year I had literally nothing to live for…or so I thought…and with all these life lessons realised life is so much better I can’t begin to tell you.

No matter how bad things seem, no matter how doubtful or full of despair they are, no matter how much you are hurting or how negative the world seems there are ALWAYS signs of hope and light.

My heart goes out to friends – both online and in person – who have lost loved ones this year and who have just survived the hardest Christmas they will ever survive. Please don’t give up hope on ever being happy again, but please, give yourself time to grieve before you attempt to move on.

My very best wishes to every one of my followers and readers for the coming year. It has been a privilege to walk the path of 2011 with you and I hope we will continue our journey together.

Love and light to you all,

Pam

 

Life Lessons


I found this on Facebook and just had to share it with you

Bill Gates’ Guide to Life:

Rule 1: Life is not fair – get used to it!

Rule 2: The world doesn’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

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Wednesday Hodgepodge


This is a series of posts I’ve found from http://joyce-fromthissideofthepond.blogspot.com/. I hope Joyce doesn’t mind me using her format here!!

1. Every January 1st since 1976 Lake Superior University has published a list of words they’d like to see banished from the Queen’s English. Words may be banished due to misuse, overuse or just general uselessness and they receive over 1000 nominations. Here are the fourteen words/phrases they’d like to see banished in 2011: viral, epic, fail, wow factor, a-ha moment, back story, BFF, man up, refudiate, Mama Grizzlies, The American People, facebook/google when used as verbs, I’m just sayin’, and Live life to the fullest. What word or phrase would you like to see banished from our everyday vocabulary in 2011? You can choose one from the ‘official list’ or you can get creative and come up with your own.

I would like to see the word “whatever” removed from common usage, especially when it’s uttered by teenagers when you are trying to explain or ask them for something. It is so dismissive and rude it invariably makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up!

2. Do you consider opportunity something that comes to you or something you create for yourself?

I think opportunity, the same as luck, is something that you have to work for and create yourself. There will always be those moments where opportunity does come knocking, but they are so rare that the only way you are going to move forward is to work at it and create your own chances. It’s like writers or musicians waiting around for the “Eureka” moment – you might strike lucky and be hit with it out of the blue, but it’s not very likely. And anyway, a little hard work never killed anyone….did it?!

3. Since we’re all eating healthy this month, ahem, what’s included in your favourite salad? Is there dressing?

Where I live there is only type of salad and that’s lettuce, tomatoes and cucumber as a basis and then whatever else is in the fridge to bulk it up – spring onions, beetroot, radishes, celery, maybe a bit of cheese or cold meat. I can’t stand mayonnaise on a salad it is way to creamy and cloying in my mouth. I much prefer Heinz Salad Cream, or just salt. Not very adventurous am I?

4. The fourth Monday in January is said to be Blue Monday…aka the most depressing day of the year. The date was calculated using many factors including weather, debt level, time since Christmas, time since we’ve failed at our new year resolutions, low motivation and feeling a need to take action. Do you get the blues this time of year and if so what is something you do to lift your spirits?

I really struggled with the blues Monday this week as it happens. And it’s not for any of the reasons usually taken as “acceptable” for the winter blues. You see, I’ve been off work with a long term sickness since January last year and I have more or less accepted the way things are. For example, I can’t pursue my lifelong hobby of playing the cornet in my brass band; I have now lost my job; I have limited mobility which means housework and shopping are out of the question, as is exercise and any physical activity. My husband is fantastic, as are my kids, but it leaves me with a bit of a gap in my life. (Did I say “bit”? I mean a huge chasm that is usually filled with people – colleagues, friends, family, neighbours etc). This particular Monday it hit me like a train that I was once again lonely every day and had a massive hole of nothingness with which to fill my days. I have experienced this feeling once or twice before during this last year, and to be honest it wasn’t just a transient feeling of “blue”, but downright panic and fear. It was because the kids had gone back to school (last week) but my husband used the end of his entitlement and only went back to work this week so had been with me up til the weekend. I honestly felt like I had nothing to live for (albeit for a brief time of just 12 hours or so) but it was enough to give me a kick up the backside and to re-evaluate what is important to me and the contribution I do actually make. I didn’t have anything to look forward to, no project on the go, no obligations, no jobs, I wasn’t needed or wanted anywhere…..but as has happened before I came out fighting and have given myself a good talking to. Of course there are money issues (who hasn’t got them these days?!?) and yes Christmas was a few weeks ago, but really, Christmas to me is all in perspective of a wider Christian culture and wasn’t the food-and-drink-and-overindulgence-fest that it might be for other people. Yes I enjoyed it at the time, but everything has its own time and place and Christmas is naturally over. I’m not grieving for it – even if it might be my last.

5. Do you wear a watch? Any other everyday jewellery essentials?

No, I don’t wear a watch or any other jewellery. I choose not to wear my wedding ring for reasons that are too personal to publicly declare, and even though I possess a crucifix and earrings etc, I choose not to wear them. I think it’s because I don’t like any adornments (I don’t wear make up either) but it’s also very difficult to find jewellery that I am not allergic to!

6. What is something useful you learned in high school?

Two things: a) Never take anything you are told at face value, always dig a little deeper before you accept it as truth, and b) even when someone does you a disservice BE NICE in return. Not only do you maintain your dignity but you put your “enemy” on the back foot and they don’t know how to deal with you next time they see you.

7. Do you use an accountant when completing and filing your income tax returns or do you attempt to muddle through all by yourself?

Being English, my tax is all dealt with as the point of salary being paid so I don’t need an accountant thank you!

8. Insert your own random thought here:

Even sadder than a death is a life not lived in the first place.